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Message posted by Rizzo on 30/1/2014 at 8:18pm
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I expect.
My daughter left home about four years ago, she rents her own flat. At her work she managed to get roped into doing a cake sale and asked me to bake for it one Sunday afternoon. I don't do baking, I work full time and have two grown up sons living at home (who I am still doing the same for as I was ten years ago (!)). She then said could she use my kitchen as she didn't have any baking stuff. Not sure what she means by that.
My Saturdays are filled with shopping/washing/cleaning and I do a roast dinner on a Sunday but try to put aside some chill out time. So I said no, which didn't go down well. She came in this evening, (she was last in Xmas day and her brother's birthday meal mid January)to collect her TopShop parcel she has delivered here and turned tail and left when I said no she couldn't use my kitchen. I just feel I would have been left with all the cleaning and providing all the ingredients.
Now I am feeling guilty but I do feel she takes advantage of us. Her brother couldn't understand why I said no.
Was I being really mean?

Message posted by minicamper2001 on 30/1/2014 at 8:26pm
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No.

Message posted by moppetsdad on 30/1/2014 at 8:31pm
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Tell she can use your kitchen or you will bake the cake if she does all your washing and ironing for a week

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Message posted by realbusdriver on 30/1/2014 at 8:32pm
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NO Rizzo, you deffo weren't being mean, as a dad of 7 grown up kids, all of whom at some stage have come home at one time or another, as a working parent you HAVE to have some you time now and then.

one of our sons (32) is back home with us at present, but my other half flatly refuses to run round after him, by that I mean he has to clean his own room, do his own laundry, take his turn at pot washing and such.

it never hurts to say no now and then, it may ruffle a few feathers but hey their adults now, they'll get over it

perhaps one thing to try would be to offer to lend your daughter your baking gear so she can try her hand at baking in her OWN kitchen, provided she promises to clean before she returns it.

stop feeling guilty, she's a big girl now

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Message posted by jelboy53 on 30/1/2014 at 8:43pm
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Never hurts to say NO every now and then...You have explained your reasons to her...End Of....

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Message posted by cbreddie on 30/1/2014 at 9:33pm
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No is the best word! I like saying "NO"! Kids dont like to be told no, but they should get used to it. You have spent your whole life running around after your kids, "no" is a perfectly reasonable word to use once in a while!

It doesnt mean you dont love your daughter, but it simply means you dont want to do something. If your daughter cant understand that, then maybe you should use the word a bit more often to help her understand it a bit better

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Message posted by GCMS2012 on 30/1/2014 at 9:50pm
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No!!!

In this day, age and nanny state of a country, people are starting to be frightened to use the word 'NO!'

I use no way more often than I used to.

I was starting to be 'walked over' by every and anyone, it was always 'Chris will do it...'.

In these tough time you need to be tough!

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Message posted by veema on 30/1/2014 at 9:56pm
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Don't feel guilty...if she's big enough to live on her own, she's more than capable of getting herself down to the pound shop for some cheap baking gear and to asda for some ingredients...it doesn't have to cost a fortune - aldi sell flour for something like 30p.

If she's volunteered to make stuff, why should you have to fund it?

Message posted by Lurcher Luvva on 30/1/2014 at 10:13pm
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She has her own kitchen , why should she use yours ?

Sounds like she wanted you to make them for her

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Message posted by SGThomas on 30/1/2014 at 10:24pm
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Saying "No" to children and watching their faces crumple just before tears, makes parenthood so worthwhile.

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Message posted by Hedgehugger on 30/1/2014 at 10:49pm
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If she didn't want to bake anything herself, she could have a) not allowed herself to be roped in, b) bought a few packets of plain fairy cakes and decorated them! Icing, yummy sprinkles, job done. Don't feel bad. If she moved out four years ago it's high time she had a go at baking anyway. She's missing out on a lot of fun.

By the way, give those two grown-up sons a firm nudge in the right direction too - they should be doing their share!

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No, and if her brothers, your sons don't get it, get them to bake for her and clean up - bet they change their minds quick smart.

Stuart, you are evil, I like it....!!!!

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Message posted by shelldean on 30/1/2014 at 11:44pm
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if she doesn't bake often enough to have her own equipment, then I suggest you point her in the direction of the úland or 99p store she can buy a few bits in there. No they wont last forever, but as she doesn't bake often they will last long enough for her. Or Tesco/asda basic range of cookware, again wont break the bank.

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Baking stuff is cheap enough, especially at the moment with home baking being the in thing.   And as far as I know ingredients are readily available at all major supermarkets.
So unless there is good reason why she shouldn't use her own kitchen, say an unreliabe oven, then there should be no reason why she should't have baked at home.

Message posted by sunshinetours on 31/1/2014 at 8:42am
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Or you could help once and teach her assuming you haven't already.

Traditional/useful domestic skills don't always often get passed on it seems - they are useful skills for any young person to have.
May not be relevant in this case of course.

Message posted by iank01 on 31/1/2014 at 12:09pm
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It will be this time then next time and another next time. She needs to invest in her own baking tins and implements and not rely on someone else.

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