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Message posted by SamandRose on 29/9/2017 at 1:05pm
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Sorry bobex55 but your comment is uncalled for.

This thread is on the 'Life in General' forum which the index page clearly states is for "subjects not covered in other forums". Many of the posts are not camping or caravanning related.

Personally I have never to my knowledge met any other users of this forum but think it's wonderful that so many people, united only by a common interest are offering all the support they can to a fellow user who is struggling with illness.

Gillian, good luck on 2nd October. Stay strong and fight for what you need :) x

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Message posted by weegmack on 29/9/2017 at 1:22pm
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Quote: Originally posted by SamandRose on 29/9/2017
Sorry bobex55 but your comment is uncalled for.

This thread is on the 'Life in General' forum which the index page clearly states is for "subjects not covered in other forums". Many of the posts are not camping or caravanning related.

Personally I have never to my knowledge met any other users of this forum but think it's wonderful that so many people, united only by a common interest are offering all the support they can to a fellow user who is struggling with illness.

Gillian, good luck on 2nd October. Stay strong and fight for what you need :) x



Thank you. Youíll have me bubbling! I really appreciate what you said, xx

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Quote: Originally posted by SamandRose on 29/9/2017
Sorry bobex55 but your comment is uncalled for.

This thread is on the 'Life in General' forum which the index page clearly states is for "subjects not covered in other forums". Many of the posts are not camping or caravanning related.

Personally I have never to my knowledge met any other users of this forum but think it's wonderful that so many people, united only by a common interest are offering all the support they can to a fellow user who is struggling with illness.

Gillian, good luck on 2nd October. Stay strong and fight for what you need :) x



Thank you. Youíll have me bubbling! I really appreciate what you said, xx



Agree, good post well said x

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Message posted by purplebean on 03/10/2017 at 5:16pm
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Thanks so much for asking, Purplebean. It wasnít so great, chum. I saw someone in Community Mental Health (CMH) and after her asking me lots of questions and me talking a lot, she felt I wasnít a priority for CMH. This is because, even though I have thought about doing myself in sometimes or thinking my family would be better off without me, itís not critical enough for her department. She also feels because all the things Iím struggling with are from my past, plus the issue with the groomer from church Iíd be better off seeing a counselling service. She only saw me today because I had the nervous breakdown and the GP wanted me seen ASAP. So, Iíve been passed to Primary Care now. There are 34 people in front of me and it could be up to 3-4 months until I get an initial assessment from them. Her parting words to me were that I need to do more for myself, as my girls are at an age now that they are possibly not going to be at home much longer. And therefore Iíll have nothing to do or get up for. Not helpful. I came home and cried for ages. Xx

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Hi Gillian. Seems that you're going to have to help yourself, hopefully with support from family & friends. I used to work in an organisation with serious issues of people having to take sick leave for stress, so I have an inkling of what you're up against.
The NHS website has a Wellbeing page with 5 things that should help if you can make yourself do them. http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/Pages/improve-mental-wellbeing.aspx
(Sorry, I can't do hyperlinks.)
And it has a link to another website with free online therapy tools & resources that look very helpful. http://www.llttf.com/
Just a shame it's coming to the shorter days, less chance to go camping - I always come back feeling more "myself", I'm guessing you do too.
So - Keep CALM (the 'campaign against living miserably', I see) And MIND seem to have been helpful to you before.
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Message posted by ficklejade on 06/10/2017 at 12:28am
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Gillian, you're not doing what my Mum did when she didn't seek treatment as soon as her eyesight started going, you are trying to get help and making efforts to help yourself. If my Mum had done what you're doing, she wouldn't have gone blind unnecessarily.

I didn't find your CMH person's final comment very helpful as it's obvious you ARE trying to help yourself. I hope Fiona W's links are useful to you and remember, you've got a lot of folks on here who you'll probably never know who they are but are here to listen and support you. XX

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Dumbstruck, can't believe what she said, they are meant to help not push you backwards.

Yes I hope the links help you too and we are all here for chats and encouragement that's what anonymous friends are good for.

Big hugs xxx

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Thank you everyone, really so much. Fiona - I will certainly take a look at those links. Thank you - I do really appreciate it.

I definitely do want to help myself. I know what I need and I just need a flipping appointment! Itís been a rough week. It really has. However, I have so much to live for, so I determined.

I donít quite know what Iíd do without the support on here - what a lovely group of lovely people. Thank you. Xxx

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Iím having a really rough day today! Me and him indoors are celebrating our 20th wedding Anniversary. He has so kindly booked a meal and hotel for tonight up in Glasgow. Iíve been quite excited all week until......anxiety attack, followed by two more 😕. Iím a bit of a wreck. Some people think I can just pull myself together, but itís so hard when you have anxiety disorder.....it has hold of you before you can stop it. Iíve got my little overnight bag packed (so used to throwing things in the campervan, this feels really posh!) and I know I just need to take this an hour at a time today. Iíve taken my meds, keeping busy with exciting laundry and have deliberately left getting myself dolled up (well, as much as thatís possible for me lol) until the last minute, so I donít have even more time to get anxious. The biggest hurdle for me today is getting out the door, then eating a meal this evening.

Feeling like this is an absolute torment at times. But just being able to tell somebody this on here has helped already. Canít wait for a gin later
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Why make it harder for yourself if you don't want to go? Just tell OH you can't face it. Get a takeaway & a bottle of wine instead. Your sanity is more important than any money he might have paid for the hotel. Your 20th annif is for you to enjoy not dread. If you have a good marriage then he needs to understand this.

As pointed out. You need to help yourself. The way to do that is to recognise situations as they develop & avoid them. You got rid of the dog. Staying in with a takeaway is going to be easier than that.

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Opensauce - you make a lot of sense!
But.
If I give in, Iíll never truly live. Itís a disabling, paralising condition and I have missed out on so much in life, that I have to keep pushing the boundaries every now and then.

I did it! I made it out and we had such a nice time. The hotel was lovely, the restaurant were so helpful with me being gluten free and, apart from a couple of wobbles, it was lovely. X

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Jolly good but don't think you have to do things just because you are missing out. I'm happy to say I lack ambition. I don't go to new places just because I feel I should. I go to places that I like. Walk out of your front door & see people living in houses. Fly to the other side of the world & see much the same thing is how I see it.

Everybody is different. Don't look at other people's lives & wish you were them. Live a life that is comfortable for you within your own limitations. Works for me. I've no ambitions to do more than tow my caravan down to south west France in the summer. Hopefully I can do that for the next 20 odd yrs until I'm too old to do it anymore. I have no desire to do much else.

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First of all Gillian, I read your post from Wednesday after you'd had your appointment with CMH and words fail me. I wish I couldn't believe that a consultant in the Health Service - who is there to try and HELP people - is effectively telling them to just go away. I know that most public services are chronically under-funded but that's deplorable.

I've thankfully never had to use this service so don't know the details of how it's structured, but does the department have a complaints procedure? Can Citizens Advice give any guidance?

Moving on to Saturday night though - well done!! Yes you had the anxiety but you didn't let it beat you and I'm so glad to hear you had a lovely time. Up yours, CMH lady!

The thing to do now is write down everything you enjoyed about the night - be that the food, the drink, being away from home for once, getting a good night's sleep ... anything. Did you get any compliments or thanks from anyone during the night, even something as small as a thank you for holding a door open for someone or somebody liking what you were wearing? Write that down as well. Hopefully that will focus your memory on what you enjoyed and help you to not dwell more than is necessary on the anxiety attacks that preceded it.

Going forward, my advice would be to assume that you're not going to get that counselling appointment and that if you do, it isn't going to help you. I agree with Fiona that you're going to have to help yourself with the support of family, friends, this forum and wherever else you can get it from. If you do this and then happen to get an appointment with a counsellor which turns out to be helpful, then that's wonderful. But if not, it's not the end of the world because you're helping yourself and getting support anyway. And don't forget - you've overcome your anxiety once and enjoyed yourself after a really tough week, you can do it again.

Obviously I'm in no position to know your financial situation but have you considered looking for counselling privately? My experience - and I do have some - is that counselling is personal. Try and speak to some on the phone until you find someone who you feel can and wants to help you. I did that some years ago and two sessions was enough to start to turn the corner. Don't worry too much about distance either, as many are happy to hold sessions over the phone or on Skype.

Hopefully there's something in all that waffle that's of some use to you. Feel free to ignore the rest. Keep on giving us updates, good or bad! x

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Quote: Originally posted by weegmack on 08/10/2017
Opensauce - you make a lot of sense!
But.
If I give in, Iíll never truly live. Itís a disabling, paralising condition and I have missed out on so much in life, that I have to keep pushing the boundaries every now and then.

I did it! I made it out and we had such a nice time. The hotel was lovely, the restaurant were so helpful with me being gluten free and, apart from a couple of wobbles, it was lovely. X



Well done you, Gillian! So glad you managed it and had a nice time.X



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SamandRose - what a lovely message, thank you. Oh, and you didnít waffle at all lol. I admit to being so gutted after that appointment. Really gutted. One of my husbandís friends is a psychologist at the clinic I was sent to there, but he had no idea I was struggling to much. So heís currently looking into whatís going on with my next appointment - I got the impression that heís not too pleased with his colleague! So fingers crossed.....

What a good idea to write those positives down - maybe Iíll treat myself to a nice notebook and that will encourage me to use it. Unfortunately, I have a limited support network. My mum (68) is just someone who doesnít ďdoĒ mental health - just doesnít get it and thinks itís something I can just shake off. She has no idea how paralysing it can be. Weíve talked and talked about it but sheís not willing to change her opinion on it. I donít want to bring a religious debate into the mix, but sheís a very committed Christian and seems to think that anxiety in particular, is sinful. I disagree of course! My in-laws express concern for me, via my husband, but I think they donít really know what to say to me. So it can awkward with them. In general, family isnít good. But I have three very good friends, two where I live, who are helpful and kind. My other friend lives a two hour drive away but messages me every single day.

I just feel a bit lost and I donít like myself one bit. I think if I have to wait much longer for an appointment, things could get really bad. So I will be looking into private counselling. Xx


Ficklejade....thank you xxx

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