Quote: Originally posted by roofie41 on 03/10/2013
Lockie an interesting reflection. I work to live without a doubt!
The work I do is with the most damaged, vulnerable and needy children and young people in our society. I am (without sounding big headed) very good at my job - something I have been able to recognise over the last four years, since completing some very good and high level training/ development including my NPQH. I am also quite rare in the field in which I work. I know without doubt that my work makes a significant difference to the children (and their families) that I work with.
I have spent ten years putting my heart and soul into the two small units that I have been working with. For me the opportunity to do this on a bigger scale and impact on more young people's lives is truly a dream. To be able to work from scratch on this and not have to put wrongs right first is an exciting opportunity.
My birth children are very fortunate, they have a good life. They are secure, happy and thriving (age 11 and 4) My 'other' children ranging in age from 13 to 31 ( combination of step and foster) are all totally behind me, in fact are very supportive and proud.
The additional income will allow us to enrich our family life - more camping trips, holidays and days out. Our house is lacking in some areas - we need a new cooker and some carpets would be good!
I will of course miss the kids and they me but once we establish a routine I believe they will be fine.
Thousands of men work away from home on a regular basis - some by choice, some because they have no other option. In fact my ex- husband did on and off for years. Is it different because I'm a woman?
Ruth
Fair enough but dont let your dreams of helping others so much run away with you at the exspense of your own children.
If you are as rare in your field as you say you are then it wont be a problem negotiating a package that means you get more time at home not less.
Ive seen a few people i went to school with who gained massive success in their careers and achieved a lot but it came at a price to their families.
All of them would turn the clock back and forget their careers if they could.
Thats only why i mentioned it.
You obviously make the world a far better place for many which is to be massively appauded but please please dont do it at the expense of your own kids and family, you will only look back and regret it.
You hold all the cards by all accounts, make sure you use them well.
Well done, for all your hardwork and achievements,we need people like yourself out there.
Tough decision. I'm a full-time mum to girls aged nearly 14 and 11. So I do find your willingness to put your job first a bit alien to me. BUT - I admire the work that you do. It's a difficult job and a necessary one and it's wonderful to know there's someone like you , who is SO dedicated to making a difference.
My hubby works long hours and is away a lot. That's one of the reasons I stay at home and it makes a big difference. My dad worked away Monday-Friday for years, only home at weekends and it was bad for our family. It caused a lot of problems. I felt as I was growing up, my dad hardly knew me. My mum was also working as a teacher and she was always so busy. So I'll admit to feeling a bit neglected at times!
However, none of us know how you communicate with your kids - if they're so supportive, it must mean that you've spent the time with them and explained your wishes and their needs?
You can only push the door and see what happens. What's for you, won't go by you. All the best!
How lovely to hear such exciting news! I am glad you have decided to apply - you would probably have regretted it if you hadn't. You can always sit down with your partner and discuss the future if (when!) you get the job offer. Step by step! (You never know, when you go for the interview you might decide it isn't for you anyway for some reason - the interview process is as much about them interviewing you as you interviewing them, the job and package have to be right for you too.)
You only get one shot at this life - sometimes we all need to step outside our comfort zone and think about different things.
I have thought about you from time to time, as I know I replied to a couple of your posts in the past. I hope things are OK for you.
Just thought I should get back to you all and let you know what happened.
My youngest daughter came down with a very bad bout of tonsillitis on Friday. Prescribed antibiotics, throat spray, ibuprofen and paracetamol by the doctor, collected from our village pharmacy (a small Boots) on the way home.
Started on them straight away hoping they would kick in and help her get better quickly. Horrendous night - she pooed herself - solid then the runs. This continued through the morning until we got her to 'Out of hours GP' who changed the antibiotic.
This continued through the day and night every 20 minutes or so!
Sunday it slowed down. Sunday night noticed the paracetamol was age 6+ - she is just 4!!! Rang NHS direct - very concerned but advised to monitor her through the night and get to GP ASAP Monday.
She was hospitalised as was not urinating.
I had done some of the application but was planning on working on it during the weekend - of course this just couldn't happen - I tried but was so drained that all I could put together was absolute rubbish and really wasn't up to the task. So I didn't put an application in!
The up side is that it has made a few people sit up and think - they don't want to lose me from the LA!! Big boss coming to see me in a week!
My daughter is thankfully home and on the mend, hopefully with no long lasting effects. Four year olds can take 240mg paracetamol but guidance is they take the 'infant' paracetamol (120mg) rather than the junior (250 mg). It had made her very poorly and seriously dehydrated.
Everything happens for a reason, as they say!!
Sounds like they don't want to lose you,, shame about your daughters illness,, glad she's on then mend. X
How odd that life gets in the way of life in such a way.
Good luck to your daughter and to you in your career. As much as our kids mean everything to us its surely important to have something else...work, frlends, family or whatever. Kids become independant of us eventually and a life lived solely through our kids is as limiting a being a career junkie.
------------- John
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