My ex-deputy manager stole over £10,000 over a period of 6 months from our department. She was always buying new stuff for her children, we the staff thought nothing of it as both her and her husband had nicely paid jobs. Anyway it was all discovered and she lost her job, she was v lucky as the CEO of the company sacked her and she had to pay back what was stolen. There was no criminal charge made, so she was free to go back out into the workforce with a clean record. Of course she is a threat to her next place of employment. I haven't seen her since, but have heard she has a new job working in a workshop, not sure if she handles money. We were friends before I started working with her, and it just makes you wonder how well do you know your so called friends??
That's awful but I know how you feel J+M it leaves a very bad taste in your mouth doesn't it, you just don't know what people are capable of, your pleased for them buying stuff and having a nice job etc, sadly I had the same thing too.
In another post, I mentioned about our accountant stealing 10k plus, she was sat oppo me and we had a good laugh and were quite friendly.
She ate out at least twice a week, bought a new to her Celica and had new clothes at the drop of a hat, gave herself a loan. Sadly I actually caught her when she was on holiday, she had the company credit card on her and we needed it. I wanted to check how much we had left in credit, she went into a panic and lied about why the statements were sent to her home!
Alarms rang in my head and 2days of investigating the Sage accounts, and bingo we had her, hard to prosecute as she said it was me doing it, the police arrested her and she was out on bail, as we were a charity the boss didn't want to take it any further due to publicity etc.
She used her tesco club card whilst she was filling her car at her local village petrol stn, when out eating all the bills had a Jack Daniels and coke, her fav drink etc
It probably started with just a petty theft actually but when people get away with it time after time without being caught it becomes an addiction so progressively the thefts increase to a degree that they think they are totally undetectable. It's no different to gambling actually because when you keep winning you don't know when to stop but then the money lead to severe losses it affects those around them to a degree that the gambler then needs professional help with their addiction. Stealing is very much identical but amazingly enough they would probably never ever consider stealing from their friends at all as their addiction is not related. So yes, they may be genuine friends but because of their past history you lose total trust and can't understand fully why they took the course of action that they did but losing valuable friends could lead to a life of depression. I don't agree with theft at all no matter how small it may be so I'm not in sympathy, it's just that the thief may have a psychological problem that needs addressing now rather than later.
Two people we thought were really good friends for years(and had been!) suddenly left us in deep doo-dah when it was found out that they were involved in a criminal racket. Father and son served prison sentences; wife knew about it but retained her position as a parish cllr. Hubby and I went through hours of interrogation and really felt like we were criminals too though we'd only seen one vehicle involved and knew nothing at all. My hubby died shortly thereafter and wifey was so patronising, I finally blew my top. Crime obviously paid in this case!! As I said, we'd really been good friends and we then got dumped in the mire. I'm still a fairly trusting person but ...!
J*M, know how you feel.
------------- " When I die I don`t want my life to flash before me in an instant, I want it to be a 3 hour epic !"
Friendship is a strange thing ain't it? Sometimes your not really sure what it is that binds you to that other person and allows you to let them into your life....Some times its the most tenuous of connections...Like a shared hobby or pastime or place of work....But their your pal none the less..
Like others(Most of us I suspect)...I have had a few of those relationships turn sour...Or just peter out over a period of time....And I find because of that...Or maybe because I am getting older...I am bit more selective in those I would call friends
Having said that....I do value and cherish (And trust) some long standing friendships I have....Some going way back to my teenage years...Long may that continue...
Jelboy.
------------- Campers of the storm,Into this world are born
I guess in that repsect Im quite lucky, or unlucky. I've found out who true friends are by the things I've gone through in life. I'm the mother of an autistic boy, and other things (only to be mentioned on an eastenders script) so have found out the hard way.
I'm so sorry that you've had to go through this, and felt betrayed.
Girls in the office have seen her about town, some she will smile and say 'hello' to and others she will just look away. Not sure what I would say to her if I had to meet him or her face to face? Lets hope that situation doesn't happen soon!
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