A family friend has recently passd away suddenly.He has travelled around the world as a Choir master/ musician.After a recent trip to Australia, he complaind about back pain.GP sent him for MRI scan/ blood tests. Last week he was asked to attend Consultant meeting "with family". Having no close family , my brother in law, his cousin went with him.
He was told he had cancer to multiple organs, kidney, brain etc.
Amazingly,a being a religious person he said "it is what it is";
Was told , prob has 12 months, last sunday he went to church, as usual to play the organ for the hymns. He died at the organ before he could play a note.
Firstly, i'm thinking if he had a choice, that would have been the way he would have chosen to go.
Secondly , I'm thinking if he had the MRI scan earlier, could he have been saved?
This makes me think about my own Prostate Cancer diagnosis and how lucky I am that it was found early.
I don't think we are far away from early detection of many cancers, a cure not so sure.
Very sad of course and we all start to worry the older we get. Sadly, we all have to go eventually, hopefully later rather than sooner and in this day and age when many previously fatal illnesses can now be cured we still have to die of something, and cancer is one of those things. It will be great if eventually all cancers can be found early and either cured or at least halted...but then something else will eventually get us. I very much doubt that there will come a time when we all live forever. As they say, in this world nothing is more certain in life than death and taxes...and we all have to live with it
Very true Bob, what is most shocking is how quickly it can happen. Apparantly fit as a fiddle, then a couple of weeks later, dead.The cancer must have been there for some time, but he didn't know about it.
I sometimes wonder if it's better not to know. I am struggling hard not to spend my final years running in and out of hospitals just trying to stay alive. If it gets to the stage of being bedridden or pushed around in a wheel chair I think I will buy a one way ticket to Switzerland. I would sooner just have a massive heart attack...here one minute, gone the next...trouble is my heart is the best part of me...it's everything else that is slowly starting to disintegrate.
Such a shock...but what a great place for him to go...and he didn't linger on.
My husband died of pancreatic cancer 18 months ago...we had 2 years from diagnosis to death and most of that time he was well enough to do what we always did...but we knew it wasn't curable and it was always there in the back of our mind. My Dad was diagnosed with liver cancer in the middle of July last year and he died 6 weeks later...I don't know which scenario is better really. We were prepared with my husband, but we lived with the diagnosis. We totally weren't prepared with my Dad, but never really had chance to think about it.
Like Bob says...we all have to go sometime...it's the only certainty in life. I'd like to just fall asleep and not wake up...not yet though...I hope I've got a good few years in me!
Today would have been my Daughters 39th Birthday, but sadly we lost her to Breast cancer in July 2015. She was a bright, active career Girl working with Autistic Adults until one day she found a lump in her breast, and went to see her GP, who refered her down to the local hospital Breast unit.
She was diagnosed with a grade three stage three fairly aggressive cancer, and went through all the treatments availble to her at the time, but it was too late. The cancer had spread to her Lungs, Brain, Liver and Bone, after 28months post diagnosis she was gone.
Her Eldest sister is now 3 years in remission from cancer of the cervix, after having a positive smear test after the Birth of her last child. Thank goodness they caught it at the early stage of 1B, and it was a low grade Cancer which they removed along with a radical hysterectomy,followed by tablet Chemotherapy based on Hormones.
I realise that this world is not big enough for everyone to live forever, and the consequences of trying could lead to such over population that the basic human needs of food, water, healthcare and the like would become unsustainable as our planet struggled to cope, so Nature has to have a system of cull and reproduce fitter and stronger replacements inorder for the world to go on, sad as it is for those left behind.
Julia
------------- Just love to be out amoungst Nature and Wildlife
Celebrating 37 years of Caravanning in 2019, Recently Considered Retiring, but Totally Addicted for Life!
For the last few years of her life she was in constant pain due to osteoporosis and she was doubly incontinent. For the better part of the last 10 years she spent most of her time not knowing where she was or who she was talking to. Her last coherent words to me a few days before she unexpectedly died were, “l’m so sad”. Not a cancer cell in sight, and a ripe old age, but not the sort of living I would want.
A friend dropped dead just over a month ago. Mid 50s, fit as a butchers dog, but unknown ulcer and heart attack saw him gone within 15 minutes of complaining of indigestion.
My Grandad died in his sleep at the age of 84 being diagnosed 10 days before with terminal cancer. My Dad knew he had cancer and died one Sunday after dinner, having felt unwell for just over an hour. I think the fact that both knew they had a terminally illness was actually a blessing. They put their affairs in order and said their goodbyes once they had informed the family of their prognosis.
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Topic: Friend with Cancer, I am in shock
