got a dilemma.my little sister has asked if she can borrow our van for a wee holiday this summer,when i wont be using it.now shes had a tough year with the break up of her marraige.losing her home and moving into cramped rented accommodation etc,but im not exactly sure my 3 neices will treat the van with the same care my lot do.
she would pay me diesel to and from the site and shes going to pay the site fees obviously but i have a niggling doubt.
however if i say no,then its highly unlikely her and the girls will get a holiday at all this year and ill be in the bad books with my family again.
so do i and run the risk of my precious abbey getting damaged(and ill stress risk)or follow my instincts and say no?
Post last edited on 21/05/2013 14:13:49
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Good luck with that one fella.....When i bought my new van i made it clear from the start that no one other than me and my missus were sleeping in it !!
Sounds like you're between a rock and a hard place and its a choice that only you can make. How respectful of other peoples property is your sister and her kids ?
I'd be honest with her, after all she is your sister, if you decide yes, make it clear to all of them that the van is your Pride and Joy and they are to look after it OR ELSE!
I'd had the same dilemma earlier this year, 6 month old caravan and my Sis has has two youngsters, but when they turned up at site I read the riot act to my Sis AGAIN and put the fear of God into the kids!
I think I would give in even though I would not want to. I did the same and made it clear it was for me and hubby only. But if I was in your situation. I would say ok you can use the van but as repairs are very very expensive I would want in wrighting that any damage and other cost incurred ie you missing holidays because of it would be paid for by her. I would hope this might put her off lending it. Why not suggest hiring a static it might work out cheaper as sight fees gas etc are included and say you would run her and pick her up less diesel as not towing
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Non caravanners with no clue will treat your caravan like they treat their own home & household fittings from taps to furniture are an awful lot stronger than those in caravans. Expect damage, but its your family so your choice.
If you want to help, suggest a static would be more comfortable & offer to help with the cost, it might be cheaper than repairing both caravan & family relationships afterwards.
Quote: Originally posted by p at ul on 21/5/2013
Good luck with that one fella.....When i bought my new van i made it clear from the start that no one other than me and my missus were sleeping in it !!
Sounds like you're between a rock and a hard place and its a choice that only you can make. How respectful of other peoples property is your sister and her kids ?
kids are typical kids mate but they do tend to get a bit excitable on holiday and go into "not my house"syndrome.ive only had the abbey since feb and been out in it once myself,(ok itll be three by the time she wants it)and at a cost of 6k im really reluctant.
when i said last night ill think about it,within 5 mins my mum was on the phone asking what was there to think about blah blah blah do you really want to let the girls down - a bit rich coming from someone who sold her caravan because it was too big.
im leaning towards no and taking the flak for it,but it was my savings that bought it and ultimately up to me who uses it.
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Go away for a night or weekend with them you can show them how it all works do's and dont's and see how they are in the van stress no decision will be made till you are sure.
Good luck
i would say no as well.....even though i would get it in the neck from my parents as they have always made if obvious that my sister is the favourite..so for me it would be easy cus im ALWAYS in the wrong!!!
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Reading your post you want to say NO, if so then you must say NO, or you will never be happy.
Or to put it another way, Whos going to be unhappy, YOU or your sister.
If you say yes when you dont want to, remember, saying yes will open the flood gates to lending it to your sister and other family members in the future
Saying yes to one, can you then say no to others ???
just had similar with tool loan ,this time i have put my foot down and said NO ..... i don't mind doing a job for family members ,but when i lend a tool out (a expensive electric planer) and it comes back broken .i am then told it was already like that the answer is NO
also laid some paving slabs for the grandaughter over easter ,left a mixing bucket and some brand new trowels there so her fella could finish the job off ,when i asked for them back a week or so ago ,,he had to go to his brothers to fetch them ,the bucket was split open the trowels were rusty .
I would never lend out our van to anyone, like someone else said go with them, then you cab keep an eye on your van
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going with them is not an option as im working the week they want to go.im having my hols at the end of july,sis wants to go at the end of the first week.and besides if i ever went away without my own kids im damned sure i aint taking anyone elses family or not lol
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